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    A female college student with ADHD reflects on her recent failures and what to do about them. / #ADHD

    A female college student with ADHD reflects on her recent failures and what to do about them. 
    
    
    
    
    Self-reflection. 
    
    
    
    
    
    I'm so depressed because I made a train transfer mistake this morning and didn't make it to first period on time. 
    I'm going to write down as many mistakes, reflections and countermeasures as I can remember 
    
    
    
    
    
    I forgot to close the cap of a plastic bottle and put it in my bag. 
    I interpreted "Due next week" as "Due the week after next" and failed to submit the report. 
    I have not forgotten something in the past week. 
    Gave extra change at a checkout job. 
    I dropped my electronic dictionary carelessly and broke it. 
    
    I shouldn't have made this thread when I'm having a hard time remembering each and every mistake I made. 
    I know it's late and I'm just talking about myself, but if you're not annoyed, please wait. 
    
    
    
    
    
    Is this after the fact? 
    
    
    
    
    
    I see. Write slowly. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    I'm sorry. Thank you. 
    
    
    
    
    
    It's like watching me back in the day. 
    I dropped out of college because I had an interpersonal phobia and a stutter, and I was a hikiker. 
    
    
    
    
    
    I had trouble concentrating on what I was saying, so my friends would say "you're not listening to me" several times. This was the most painful thing for me. 
    
    I didn't realize that my part-time job schedule and circle schedule were double-booked, so I hurriedly called the circle leader on the day of the event. 
    
    I made the same mistake twice in the last month. 
    
    I lost my car key and had a big fuss. (I lost my car keys and made a big fuss (I just put them in a different place in my bag). 
    
    
    
    
    
    Similar to me, I ended up dropping out of school because there were too many things that people around me couldn't do that I could take for granted. 
    
    
    
    
    
    I don't want to drop out of college: ...... 
    I'm always late, and I already have a stack of absences, but I enjoy my classes. 
    
    
    
    
    
    It's really hard to take things for granted. 
    When I walk, I trip, when I turn, I hit my foot on the corner, and when I try to drink water, I knock over my cup. 
    I've knocked over a glass of water more than once or twice when trying to drink it. 
    
    
    
    
    
    You're just a sloppy, healthy person. 
    
    That's what happens when you don't get enough sleep. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    I've been diagnosed, but I think it's mild. 
    I feel like lack of sleep is a contributing factor, so I'm trying to get a good night's sleep every day. 
    
    
    
    
    
    Okay, I'll try my best to write this down. 
    
    I can't do what my family asks me to do. I can't do what my family asks me to do. I easily forget even to press one button on the washing machine. 
    I try to write down what I'm told" - "I lost my notepad! 
    I'll lose my notepad, so I'll use a sticky note" - "The sticky note came off and fell off! I don't remember anything!" 
    
    
    
    
    
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    You forget to write things down in an instant, don't you? 
    
    
    
    
    
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    That's it. 
    You're about to write something down, and you think, "Oh, that's important, I'm going to write it down. 
    "So, what do I write down?" And you're like, "Well, what do I write down? 
    Only then do I realize that I forgot what I was going to write down, and my mind goes blank. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    Before I know what to write, I suddenly see something or hear a sound, and my attention goes to it, and then I go on to something new. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    Sounds like coughing and sneezing are pretty detrimental. 
    It's easy to get distracted. 
    
    
    
    
    
    I can't even get a part-time job. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    It's so hard to get a part-time job. 
    But if I don't, I can't pay for school or medicine. 
    My employer is very kind, and the manager is very understanding, so he gives me some consideration. 
    
    
    
    
    
    If you think about it, if you put a note on a sticky note and stick it somewhere, it's bound to come off. 
    
    
    
    
    
    You're lucky that people are nice to you. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    Yeah, I'm glad there are so many kind people around. 
    There's a counselor at the university, and some teachers will allow you to record if you explain the situation. 
    The hardest part is getting my family to understand. 
    
    
    
    
    
    I'm starting to have a hard time remembering, so I'm going to have to figure out a way to deal with it. 
    
    I forgot to close the cap of the plastic bottle and put it in my bag. 
    →Æ Avoid drinking from plastic bottles and use a water bottle with a button to open and close it. 
    When it's unavoidable, I'm embarrassed to admit it, but I'll confirm it out loud. 
    I interpreted "Due next week" as "Due the week after next" and failed to submit my report. 
    →If you have a friend nearby, ask him/her to check with you. 
    If not, check with your professor or teacher. 
    I haven't forgotten anything in the past week. 
    →I'll think about it later because I'm too out of the loop. 
    I give extra change at my part-time job as a cashier. 
    →If it's not a busy time of the day, ask the customer to check too. 
    I'll figure out what to do when it's busy later. 
    Carelessly dropping an electronic dictionary and breaking it 
    →Æ Be conscious of picking up an object after looking at it with your eyes without moving your hand first (I wouldn't have any trouble if I could do this) 
    
    
    
    
    
    Because I can't concentrate on listening, my friends say to me several times, "You're not listening to me, are you? 
    →I do my best to listen. I do my best to listen. I try to have important conversations in a quiet place as much as possible. 
    I didn't realize that my part-time job schedule and circle schedule were double-booked, so I hurriedly contacted the circle leader on the day of the meeting. 
    →Do not put off writing your schedule in your notebook. Next, look at your notebook before (and while) making plans. 
    The next time you lose your car keys and get into a big fuss. (He had just put them in a different place in his bag than usual.) 
    (He just put them in a different place in his bag.) → Put them in a fixed place. Make spares if you can. 
    
    
    
    
    
    I can't think of any countermeasures, like talking about buttons on the washing machine or notepad sticky notes. 
    
    
    
    
    
    Keep a whiteboard in a prominent place in the room. 
    And a smartphone app that shows appointments in the notification bar. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    Thanks! 
    I wasn't sure if I'd buy a whiteboard, so I'll get one at a hundred bucks. 
    I'd be glad if you could tell me specifically what kind of smartphone apps you have. 
    Remain on line? I use it when I need to be reminded. 
    
    
    
    
    
    I'm trying to get into the habit of living in a certain cycle. 
    Sometimes I forget something when the cycle changes. 
    
    
    
    
    
    >>I'm not sure if it's a habit or not, but it's a good idea. 
    I've got to get into the habit. 
    I guess it's just hard to get to that point. 
    By the way, I'm a freshman, and I think it's partly because it's only been two months since I started my new life. 
    
    
    
    
    
    If you live at home, ask for help as much as you can. 
    
    If you live alone, it's not good. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    Seriously? 
    I've been wanting to live alone because it's too hard to fit into the family's lifestyle and routine. 
    I don't know if I should stop him. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    I forgot I was making boiled eggs, and I ran out of water, and the sound of the eggs exploding made me realize... 
    
    
    
    
    
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    That's scary. 
    I'd be too scared to leave the stove while cooking. 
    I sometimes leave the stove on too. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    I switched to a stove with an overheat protector. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    I'm always saying "Sorry, I forgot" and the cold eyes of my family pierce me. ...... 
    
    I didn't know you could put that feature on! I heard good things! 
    
    
    
    
    
    If you have a stove with Si sensor, it will turn off the fire on its own. 
    
    
    
    
    
    A stove with the middle out like this. 
    
    
    
    
    
    
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    I'm sorry, I forgot" is a common phrase, and the cold eyes of my family pierce me. ...... 
    
    You can add a feature like that! Good to hear! 
    
    
    
    
    
    I'll buy the whiteboard for now. 
    
    Now if I can just get the messy room tidied up enough to make me feel calm.  
    
    
    
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    You forget to use a whiteboard. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    Stop it ...... Stop it ...... 
    
    
    
    
    
    For the past month I feel like I've been saying, "I'm gonna clean up my room today!" I feel like I've been saying that for the past month. 
    I never get anything done and it's so hot in my room I can't even stay in there for 30 minutes. 
    I wish I had an air conditioner in my room! 
    
    
    
    
    
    I've been living like this my whole life, but I wonder what will happen when I start working. 
    I wonder if I'll be able to work at a company. 
    I can't even think about the future, but it bothers me. 
    
    
    
    
    
    Oh, that's right, I just remembered another mistake I made. 
    I'm sorry to be so crude, but I forgot to wear a bra when I went out. 
    I guess I'll carry underwear with me now: ...... 
    
    
    
    
    
    I don't think I've done enough to clean my body... 
    
    
    
    
    
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    Thanks to you, I was able to wash my hair and body properly by the time I was in middle school. 
    I often go to bed without drying my hair. 
    I just can't take care of my hair. 
    
    
    
    
    
    I didn't realize how hard college life is. 
    To be honest, I may have underestimated it. 
    But I don't want to drop out. ...... 
    
    
    
    
    
    How far is the school? 
    
    
    
    
    
    It takes me about 2 hours to go to school. 
    Is it too far? 
    
    
    
    
    
    >>I'm not sure. 
    I've had students who went to school at home, but they didn't have a 2 hour commute. 
    Is it in a rural area? 
    
    
    
    
    
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    It's in a rural area. 
    The nearest station is too far away to begin with. ...... 
    
    
    
    
    
    To be honest, going to and from school is the most tiring part of the day, and I think it also makes my butt heavy. I'm lazy by nature. 
    But that doesn't mean I can't move. 
    It would be best if I could go to bed early, but it's hard. 
    
    
    
    
    
    It's not a matter of effort, it's a matter of perseverance. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    It's frustrating, but I understand. 
    I can't explain it well, but anyway, it's very difficult. 
    
    
    
    
    
    In the Kanto area, if you go from Kanagawa to Tokyo in 2 hours, you can go to Saitama and Chiba. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    No way, two hours is such a big time ...... 
    I'd be exhausted just getting to and from school. 
    
    
    
    
    
    I'd like to try Concerta, have you used it? 
    
    
    
    
    
    >>I'd like to try Concerta. 
    Strattera. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    I'm on Strattera right now. 
    When they upped my meds, the side effects were so strong I couldn't go to school. 
    I just got it lowered the other day. 
    Were the side effects too strong? 
    
    
    
    
    
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    I'm a college student taking Concerta. 
    I'm less inattentive, but it doesn't help with the procrastination. 
    And the side effects are huge. 
    
    
    
    
    
    >>I'm in college and I'm taking Concerta. 
    I hope we're both doing well in college. 
    I didn't know Concerta had such bad side effects. 
    I guess there is no magic pill that can alleviate all the symptoms. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    I've lost my appetite and have trouble sleeping. 
    If I take too much, I get irritable and nauseous. 
    I'm starting to think that the most important thing is to get into a good rhythm (not that I can say that, as I'm still a night owl). 
    
    
    
    
    
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    I've only been taking Strattera, but I know what it's like to lose your appetite. 
    I've been taking it for about a month and I've lost about 5 pounds. 
    I know - I need to get my rhythm in order ...... 
    
    
    
    
    
    I have ADHD too! 
    I'd love to have a partner who understands it. 
    
    I want a partner who understands my ADHD, but most of the time it's just a guy. 
    Whatever the case may be... 
    
    
    
    
    
    >>I'm not sure I want a partner. 
    I'd like a partner who understands my ADHD. 
    
    
    
    
    
    Women with ADHD are very popular, it's well known. 
    Male ADHD is miserable, though. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    I thought most of them were careless and cute at first. 
    
    
    
    
    
    >>I don't think it's cute at all... 
    I don't think it's cute at all... 
    
    
    
    
    
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    I'm not sure if I'd be popular if I was ....... 
    I don't care if I'm not popular, I just want to be normal. 
    
    
    
    
    
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    I've basically given up. 
    I've basically given up, but when I see someone of my own kind, I think... maybe I'd like to go out with them. 
    
    
    
    
    
    Sorry, I went to stop the alarm clock. 
    I'm going to go get ready for school. 
    Thanks again for listening! 
    
    
    
    
    
    I'll probably drop the thread, but in case I don't, I'll come back. 
    I'll try my best today! 
    
    
    
    
    
    Oh well... 
    Good luck!
    

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